Today is Thursday, December 23rd, 2004; Karen's Korner #444

Our "Family"
By Linda Snelson

     My daughter Gina was in Mrs. Melton's fourth-grade class.  After only a month in school, she began to come home on a regular basis asking for pencils, crayons, paper, etc.  At first I just dutifully provided whatever she needed, never questioning her.
     After ongoing requests for items that should have easily lasted a mere six weeks of fourth grade, I became concerned and asked her, "Gina, what are you doing with your school supplies?"  She would always respond with an answer that satisfied me.
     One day, after supplying the same thing only a week earlier, I became irritated with her pleading for more and sternly asked her once more, "Gina! What is going on with your school supplies?"  Knowing her excuses would no longer work, she bent her head and began to cry.  I lifted her tiny chin and looked into those big brown eyes, filled now with tears.  "What?!  What is wrong?"  My mind was racing with all sorts of ideas.  Had she been bullied by another child?  Was she giving her supplies to him or her to keep from being hurt, or to gain their approval?  I couldn't imagine what was going on, but I knew it was something serious for her to cry.  I waited for what seemed like an eternity for her to answer.
     "Mom," she began, "there is a boy in my class; he doesn't have any of the supplies he needs to do his work.  The other kids make fun of him because his papers are messy and he only has two crayons to color with.  I have been putting the new supplies you bought me in his desk before the others come in, so he doesn't know it's me.  Please don't get mad at me, Mom.  I didn't mean to tell you a lie, but I didn't want anyone to know it was me."
     My heart sank as I stood there in disbelief.  She had taken on the role of an adult and tried to hide it like a child.  I knelt down and hugged her to me, not wanting her to see my own tears.  When I pulled myself together, I stood up and said, "Gina, I would never get mad at you for wanting to help someone, but why didn't you just come and tell me?"  I didn't have to wait for her to answer.
     The next day I visited Mrs. Melton.  I told her what Gina had said.  She knew John's situation all too well.  The oldest of four boys, their parents had just moved here and when the school presented them with the school supply list for all four grades they were overwhelmed.  When the boys came to school the next week, they barely had the necessities – a few sheets of paper and a pencil each.
     I asked Mrs. Melton for the list from all four grades and told her I would take care of it the next day.  She smiled and gave me the lists.
     The next day, we brought the supplies in and gave them to the office with instructions to give them to the boys.
     As Christmas neared, the thought of John, his brothers and family weighed heavily on my mind.  What would they do?  Surely they would not have money for gifts.
     I asked Mrs. Melton if she could get me their address.  At first she refused, reminding me that there was a policy that protected the privacy of the students, but because she knew me from my work at the school and involvement on the PTA board, she slipped a piece of paper into my hand and whispered, "Don't tell anyone I gave it to you."
     When my family began to set the stage for our traditional Christmas Eve, which was usually held at my house, I simply told them all that my husband, the kids and I did not want gifts, but instead we would prefer to have groceries and gifts for our "family."
     As the girls and I shopped throughout the holiday season, they delighted in picking things out for the four boys.  Gina was especially interested in things for John.
     Christmas Eve came and my family began to arrive.  Each of them had bags of food and gifts wrapped for the children.  My living room was full and the excitement was contagious.
     Finally at 9:00 we decided it was time to take our treasures to them.  My brothers, dad, uncles and nephews loaded up their trucks and set out for the apartment complex address that Mrs. Melton gave us.
     They knocked on the door and a little boy appeared.  They asked for his mother or dad and he ran away.  The guys waited until a young man, hardly more than a child himself, came to the door.  He looked at the men standing there, with arms full of gifts and bags full of groceries, and couldn't say a word.  The men pushed past him and went straight to the kitchen counter to set the bags down.
     There was no furniture.  It was an empty one-bedroom apartment with a few blankets on the floor and a small TV where they obviously spent their time.  A Christmas tree was the result of the kids bringing in a bush they had found in the field behind the complex.  A few paper decorations made in their classrooms made it look like a real Christmas tree.  Nothing was underneath.
     The boys and their parents stood without speaking as the men sat down bag after bag.  They finally asked who had sent them, how did they know them and so on.  But the men just left them with shouts of "Merry Christmas!"
     When the guys got back to my house they didn't say a word.  They couldn't.
     To break the silence, my aunt stood up and began to sing "Silent Night," and we all joined in.
     When school resumed, Gina came home daily telling of John's new clothes and how the other children now played with him and treated him like the rest of the children.
     She never told a soul at school about what we did, but every Christmas since that one she will say to me, "Mom, I wonder what happened to John and his family?"  While I'm not quite sure of the answer, I'd like to think that John and his family were somehow helped by my daughter's gift
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